Things to read
Written here, free to readWhat happens when the house goes quiet, and what to do with the hours you can't sleep.
ReadQuestions to write to, sorted by the kind of day you're having.
ReadWhat these groups are actually like, what to ask before you join, and how mine works.
ReadWho comes, how long it runs, and what you're never asked to do. Cameras optional.
GuideSmall things that help on the hard days — the early days, mothering the living, the hard nights.
ShopA short, honest list of grief books and a journal, each with why it's here.
ArchiveEvery note I've sent, searchable. One month at a time, nothing polished.
Free to download
Print them, write in themWords that hold up
Say them out loud if it helps“You are not behind. There is no schedule for this.”
— Nina
“Everyone asks how you're doing. No one wants the real answer. In the circle, we want the real answer.”
— Nina
“Some days the whole job is water, a shower, and getting to the end of the day.”
— Nina
“Missing her is not a problem to solve. It's what love does when the person is gone.”
— Nina
“You can carry more than one loss at a time. Both deserve space.”
— Nina
The weekly circle
Free · Zoom · cameras optionalOne hour a week with other mothers who understand. You can keep your camera off, say nothing, and still belong there.
One note a month
Free · one email a monthI write one honest note a month — what was hard, what helped, and one small thing you can try. Leave whenever you want. You can always reply; I read them myself.
Your email stays with me. Never shared, never sold.
Other places to get support
Not mine — still goodLocal and virtual groups for bereaved parents and siblings. US, with chapters worldwide.
Peer support for families in Ontario, including parents after the death of a child.
Support for families after the death of a child, at any age and from any cause.
Resources for grieving children, teens and the adults caring for them.
Call or text 988 if you are in crisis or thinking about ending your life.
Call or text 988, any hour.
If you are in danger right now, call your local emergency number.